Walking Into That Good Night: Exploring Our Relationship With Dying & Death
Feb 23rd, 2025 - Mar 1st, 2025 | Death Valley, CA | Katie Teague, Betsy Perluss
“To live in this world
you must be able to do three things:
To love what is mortal,
To hold it against your bones knowing
your own life depends on it,
And when the time comes to let it go,
to let it go.”
— Mary Oliver
“Awareness of death is the very bedrock of the path. Until you have developed this
awareness, all other practices are useless.”
-the Dalai Lama
Physical death is the ultimate rite of passage that we are preparing for on some level throughout our entire life. Sometimes this “preparing” looks like denial; sometimes sudden illness or life-threats surprise us into looking squarely at the inevitable truth. The more consciously we can turn our attention to our mortality, the more able we are to turn our life’s focus toward that which truly matters to us during this one precious lifetime.
In today’s world we carry the challenge and opportunity of making important health decisions with modern medical advances. This changes what our “dying” may look like, and necessitates significant conversations with our loved ones, as well as soul searching within ourselves. Some of the questions that arise may be: how do these decisions affect my loved ones? what are my biggest fears?, my greatest hopes?, what is my relationship with chosen death or suicide at a certain point in my dying process?, how much am I in control?, and how does the certainty of my own mortality inform my living and even infuse my life with meaning and beauty?
There is no final answer to these and many more fertile questions, rather an opportunity to deepen our organic, creative relationship with death that matures as we do. We will come together and be in conversation with the land, each other, and ourselves about our mortality, expectations and fears, relationship with mystery and the unknown. We will individually discover what arises from the tension of being life-filled, while inevitably walking toward our death.
Night walks under the Death Valley sky will be the solo time each day, culminating in an overnight solo. During this time you will explore and cultivate your own personal tools for walking in the darkness.
Program enquiries:to Katie Teague: [email protected]
Additional course details & Materials
PROGRAM LOGISTICS: We will meet at 2:00 pm on February 23rd at our basecamp at Mesquite Campground in Death Valley where we will camp together for the week. Each day we will meet to listen to the stories brought back from the night walk solos, and we will sit in council to explore our relationship with death/life. A more detailed logistical letter will be sent out a few months before we meet. We will finish by noon on March 1st ADDITIONAL FEES: Each car must purchase a Death Valley entrance fee ticket. We will split the cost of the campsites that we reserve. Camping fees to be determined. Maximum group size: 10 people
You will be responsible for bringing your own food and equipment, though we can provide some gear if needed. We ask everyone to come prepared to live self-sufficiently. You will need to bring shelter and clothing suitable for a full range of inclement weather.
All participants must submit the required health questionnaire and liability form.
If you have questions about the enrollment process contact us at [email protected] or call 760-938-3333.
Recommended reading: The Final Crossing, by Scott Eberle and The Trail to the Sacred Mountain Handbook. All publications are available at Lost Borders Press.
Tüpippüh (also known as Death Valley) is home of the Timbisha people and is the name of their ancestral and contemporary homeland. Miners came to this area in 1849 and the Timbisha’s land was stolen to create Death Valley National Monument in 1933. The Timbisha were allotted a 40 acre reservation in the park and also forced onto other reservations and into towns in the area.
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