As our modern culture has grown ever more sophisticated, we have also become ever more divorced from our natural surroundings and from ancient wisdom about living and dying. We have pushed Death away from Life, the dying away from the living - all in order to impose the illusion of control on the uncertainty of change. We have lost touch with the natural world and with our place in it as mortal animals. We have forgotten "how to die."

Practice of Living and Dying

For millennia indigenous people everywhere have known "how to die." Their teacher was the natural world and, over many years and many generations, they learned their lessons well. Cycles of dying and rebirth were seen everywhere: the setting and rising of the sun, the turning of the seasons, the death of the elderly alongside the birth of a new generation. Ceremonial rites of passage emerged pan-culturally as an expression of these lessons well-learned. These rites supported individuals as they let go of one stage of life—the “little deaths”—and were “reborn” into the next. And these rites supported people as they prepared for the final transition, the big Death that awaits us all.

As our modern culture has grown ever more sophisticated, we have also become ever more divorced from our natural surroundings and from ancient wisdom about living and dying. We have pushed Death away from Life, the dying away from the living—all in order to impose the illusion of control on the uncertainty of change. We have lost touch with the natural world and with our place in it as mortal animals. We have forgotten “how to die.”

Over 30 years ago, a cultural transformation—a slow rediscovery of the lost art of living and dying—began simultaneously in two different settings. In 1973, the first American hospice was started in New Haven and two years later, the first California program opened in Marin County. Also in 1973, Steven Foster began working for a government agency called "Rites of Passage” and two years later partnered with Meredith Little (also in Marin) and together they began their pioneering work in wilderness rites of passage. Thirty years later, these worlds met at Steven’s deathbed when Dr. Scott Eberle, a hospice physician, was asked to help Steven with his final rite of passage into death.  In 2003, Scott and Meredith joined together as teaching partners, creating "The Practice of Living and Dying" - a new kind of curriculum that draws from both the hospice movement and the rites of passage movement.

Wilderness guide Meredith Little and hospice physician Dr. Scott Eberle are committed to promoting more understanding about rites of passage within health care, and increasing awareness about the dying practice contained in rites of passage work.  Their dream is to learn what will be evoked by the dynamic juxtaposition of hospice, rites of passage, and the land we live on, that we might each be inspired to live and die more consciously amid these challenging times.

The Practice of Living and Dying

Grief, Loss and Illness: A Journey into Healing

Date: 
Oct 9th, 2013 - Oct 15th, 2013

 The land around us (and within us) teaches with each passing season, and with each flood, drought, fire and storm, that out of change, crisis and a dying to what was, there appears a new story of form and adaptation. And that how we respond and integrate change into the fabric of our ongoing story colors the character of what comes next.

Meredith Little, co-founder, School of Lost Borders

Choosing Conscious Elderhood: discovering purpose, passion and the call to service in the elder years

Date: 
Jul 7th, 2013 - Jul 13th, 2013
Guides: 
Ron Pevny, Susan Prince

A message from Meredith Little and Scott Eberle:

We are so pleased to include Choosing Conscious Elderhood in The Practice of Living and Dying curriculum. As lead guide, Ron Pevny brings  passion, experience and commitment to this essential and meaningful rite of passage. For thousands of years communities have honored their Elders for the wisdom gathered through living many seasons and life transitions, and from hearing the whisper across the threshold of physical death as it grows closer.  Ron  and his colleagues are masters at listening for the new story of Elderhood in our world today, and supporting each of us to more consciously embody our unique version of this evolving story.